A runner in the throes of a taper forgets the months of hard work and frets about whether they’ve done enough. Anxiety sets in. Plus, this thing they love, which occupies hours in the day, is suddenly gone. Similarly, a moderating drinker worries about missed social opportunities and judgements from others. They also forego a key component of their daily routine and an “easy button” for coping with stress.
The scarcity mindset is self-fulfilling. Any time the tapering runner or abstaining drinker think they’re missing out on something, they will suffer. At the extreme end of the spectrum, negative emotions, dredged up by wanting things to be different than they are, can lead to a spiral of declining self worth. Yuck.
There are physical realities to confront as well. Runners who sharply reduce activity may have aches, pains, and “phantom injuries.” Drinkers cutting back might experience uncomfortable withdrawals and cravings. Both could have changes in energy, sleep, appetite, and mood.
So, how can you mitigate the pain of cutting back? Check that. How can you thrive in these situations?
Mentally, you must shift gears from what you can’t do to what you can. Have-nots to haves. I know, I know… Oversimplify much? But it’s true. Focus on gratitude, and there won’t be any air left in the room for scarcity.
In his (often self-consciously grouchy) bestseller, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, Mark Manson writes, “Rejection is an inherent and necessary part of maintaining our identity. We are defined by what we choose to reject.”
So, feel all the feels. Spend some quality time with them. Nice to meet you. And then… Let go (or “reject,” if you prefer the Manson jargon). Now you’re ready for a mindset shift.